From "In My Way" to "On My Way": Why Mindset Matters

"When you fully show up for yourself... you're on your way!" - Sheryl Slatter

There's a subtle but powerful shift that happens when you stop being your own roadblock and start becoming your own momentum. It's the difference between "I'm in my way" and "I'm on my way." Same person. Same challenges. Completely different trajectory.

The Weight of Being In Your Way

You know the feeling. You have goals, dreams, ambitions—but somehow, you're the one standing between where you are and where you want to be.

This is what self-sabotage looks like—and most people don't realize they're doing it. When you stop self-sabotaging, you stop being the obstacle in your own path.

You overthink until opportunities pass. Perfectionism paralyzes you. You convince yourself to stay small.

The voice in your head says:

"Not ready yet."

"Not good enough."

"Who am I to do this?"

"What if I fail?"

"What if I succeed—will it be too scary?"

And so, you wait. You plan. You prepare. Then you stall and stay stuck—not because you lack capability, but because your mindset has you convinced you're the problem. You've become the obstacle in your own path.

When Mindset Becomes Your Roadblock

Here's what most people don't realize: being "in your way" isn't about lacking skills, resources, or opportunities. It's about the lens through which you see yourself and your circumstances.

When you're in your own way, everything becomes evidence of why you can't:

• A setback proves you're not cut out for this

• Someone else's success highlights your inadequacy

• A mistake confirms you were right to doubt yourself

• Fear feels like wisdom telling you to stay put

Your mindset filters every experience through a narrative of limitation. And that narrative? It's running the show, making decisions, keeping you safe—and keeping you stuck.

The Shift: Mindset Matters

Here's where it gets interesting. The shift from "in my way" to "on my way" isn't about suddenly having everything figured out. It's not about eliminating fear or doubt. It's about changing the story your mindset is telling you.

When you're on your way, you see the same challenges through a different lens:

• A setback becomes data, not defeat

• Someone else's success shows what's possible

• A mistake is feedback for course correction

• Fear becomes a sign you're growing, not a stop sign

Same circumstances. Different mindset. Entirely different outcomes.

Because mindset matters. It matters more than talent. More than resources. More than perfect timing. Your mindset determines whether you interpret your life as happening to you or for you. It's the difference between "Why is this happening to me?" and "What is this teaching me?"

What This Looks Like in Real Life

I recently worked with a client who walked into our session rating themselves a 10 out of 10—completely restricted by trapped emotions and limiting beliefs. They felt utterly stuck, weighed down by the roadblocks they'd built in their own mind.

By the end of that single session, after engaging fully with the process and doing the heavy lifting, they scored themselves a 1.

Same person. Same day. But they'd shifted from being in their way to being on their way. They left feeling light, released, and ready to move forward—not because their circumstances had changed, but because their relationship to those circumstances had transformed.

That's the power of mindset work. The obstacles don't vanish. But you stop being one of them.

From Obstacle to Momentum

When you shift from being in your way to being on your way, something remarkable happens. You stop waiting for permission—from yourself or anyone else. You start taking imperfect action. You build momentum not through massive leaps, but through consistent steps forward.

You become someone who:

• Tries before they feel ready

• Learns faster because you're not protecting your ego

• Adapts when things don't go as planned

• Trusts themselves to figure it out

You're not suddenly fearless. You're just no longer letting fear decide. The obstacles don't disappear. But you stop being one of them.

What Changes When You Change Your Mindset

Everything.

Your decisions change because you're no longer deciding from a place of scarcity or self-protection. Your relationships shift because you show up differently. Your goals evolve because you're no longer playing small to avoid disappointment or fear of losing. (There is no true loss anyway, but that's a topic for another day.)

You become the kind of person who says, "I'm on my way" and actually means it—not because the path is clear, but because your mindset has you moving forward anyway.

The Choice You Get to Make

Right now, in this moment, you get to choose. Are you in your way or on your way?

That choice isn't a one-time decision. It's a practice. It's the daily choice to question the limiting stories. To reframe the setbacks. To treat yourself like someone who's allowed to grow, evolve, and succeed—messy progress and all. It's daily mental muscle building.

Mindset matters because it's the foundation of everything else. You can have the perfect strategy, the best resources, all the support in the world—but if your mindset keeps you stuck, none of it moves the needle.

The moment you shift from being your own obstacle to being your own momentum—that's when everything changes.

Ready to shift from "in my way" to "on my way"?

If you're tired of being your own roadblock and ready to build the mindset that propels you forward, I'd love to talk. Sometimes all it takes is someone to help you see what you can't see on your own—and shift the story that's been running your life.

Your way forward starts with your mindset. Let's get you on your way.

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