What Really Lights You Up? Discovering Your True Values

'When you touch your core and know your true values, your path lights up' - Sheryl Slatter

Have you ever felt like you're living someone else's life? Like you're checking all the boxes—the career, the relationships, the achievements—but something still feels off?

That nagging feeling might be telling you something important: you're living by inherited values, not your own.

The Values We Inherit

From childhood, we absorb values like sponges. Our parents' beliefs about success. Our culture's definition of a "good life." Society's expectations about what matters. These inherited values aren't necessarily wrong, but here's the catch—they might not be yours.

You might have been taught that financial security is paramount, but deep down, creativity and freedom make you come alive. Or perhaps you were raised to prioritize family above all else, yet you feel most fulfilled when pursuing ambitious career goals. The internal conflict this creates can be exhausting. And here's the thing: you don't have to choose between practicality and authenticity. The question isn't whether to live practically or authentically—it's finding the right balance to do both.

When Your Values Light You Up

True values don't feel like obligations. They energize you. When you're living in alignment with your authentic values, decisions become clearer. That persistent sense of "should" transforms into genuine "want to." You stop justifying your choices to yourself because they simply feel right.

Think about the moments when you feel most alive, most yourself. What's present in those moments? Those threads are pointing you toward your true values.

Here's the best bit: once you know your true values, they become your superpower. My clients use their values as a compass for everything—navigating difficult decisions, pursuing meaningful goals, resolving conflicts, and designing a life that actually fits them. Your values aren't just nice-to-know; they're the foundation for how you move through life.

The Cost of Misalignment

Living out of sync with your core values creates a specific kind of exhaustion. You might feel successful on paper but empty inside. You might constantly second-guess your decisions or feel resentful without knowing why. This internal conflict doesn't just drain your energy—it dims your light.

What's exciting is that once you identify this misalignment, you can do something about it.

Uncovering What's Really Yours

Discovering your true values isn't about rejecting everything you were taught. It's about examining what you've inherited and consciously choosing what genuinely resonates with who you are. It's about distinguishing between what you think you should value and what actually lights you up.

Here's what fascinates me: what we uncover as your true values is almost never what you'd have listed before we started. It happens every single time. The values that are actually driving you, energizing you, creating that sense of rightness—they're often completely different from what you'd consciously claim. That's precisely why this work is so transformative.

This process takes courage. It means honouring yourself enough to live authentically. It means choosing alignment over approval. And it means finally coming home to yourself.

Making It Real

So, what does this look like in practice? How do you actually move from recognizing the misalignment to living with clarity and purpose?

This is exactly why I've created a Know Your Values strategy session.

Ready to Discover What Truly Lights You Up?

If you're experiencing that internal conflict—knowing something's off but not quite sure what—I'm offering complimentary Know Your Values strategy sessions. With a new year approaching, there's no better time to get crystal clear on what truly matters to you.

These sessions are for people who are serious about uncovering their authentic values, ready to challenge what they've inherited, willing to sit with uncomfortable truths, and committed to making changes based on what they discover.

Imagine starting your next year with clarity about your true values—a compass that guides every decision you make. Not resolutions that fade by February, but a foundation that lasts.

If you recognize you're living out of alignment and you're determined to get clear

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This is for people ready to come home to themselves.

Is that you?

Start your new year authentically.